I spend a lot of time on my phone. So much that I feel guilty about it, that it makes me feel slightly embarrassed and ashamed. And yet, I find myself scrolling through Instagram every spare second I have. But what’s scary about my use of social media is that for so long, it was a tool to make me feel WORSE. It continued the cycle of self-loathing and comparisons I often feel myself trapped in while looking at ads all the time.
Yes, comparison is a thief of joy. Yes, I know that I shouldn’t hold myself to the standards of Photoshopped perfection. But I’m human and the more I saw other people’s glorious lives, the more I felt like mine was subpar. So I did something about it.
So I decided to do something about this. I unfollowed over 200 accounts and pages that were cluttering my feed with negativity.
See, I’ve been on a wellness journey the past 18 months and binged followed fitness models. There’s this strange belief I hold on to that makes me think if I follow these beautiful fitness models, I’ll be just a little bit closer to being like them.
No, part of my self-love journey means that I am filling my mind with positive role models and affirmations. This extends to the digital world I so desperately cling to in my spare moments (don’t worry, I’m working on setting the phone down). I will not always be able to shut out triggering or harmful external influences but I can control what I willing take part in and follow.
Think about what your filling your mind with and if the social media accounts you follow for “inspiration” are really inspiring you or just shaming and guilting you into healthier choices.
So here’s how you can do the same:
- Start with the social media platform you spend the most time on or look at the one where you are following the most influencers/non-friend accounts or pages
- Honestly go through your followers and asking yourself the following questions:
- Why do I follow them?
- Do they inspire me to better myself through positive action or because I feel shamed into it and want what they have?
- Do I really need to see this?
- Be honest. Unfollow those you have even the slightest hesitation about.
- Build up your account with positivity and inspirational accounts
- Search for hashtags to find influencers or organizations that represent causes you care about (i.e. body positivity, activism, recovery, etc.)
Many of the accounts I had been following were supposed to serve as weight loss inspiration. Only they weren’t serving as I had initially thought. They made me feel guilty for not losing enough weight fast enough, even though my body has become so much stronger and healthier on my fitness journey.Social media is a powerful tool so let’s do good with it. Click To Tweet